Big bridesmaid decisions

Posted on June 18, 2013 by ehowtos Publisher

By: Michelle Rider

Planning a wedding involves making a huge amount of decisions. For many brides, the hardest choices to make when planning a wedding revolve around the bridesmaids – how many to have, who to have and what colour should they wear? Get this wrong and not only could you end up with unhappy friends and female relatives, but it could also impact considerably on the overall theme and look of your wedding.

The tradition of bridesmaids dates back to a time when ten witnesses were required at weddings to outsmart evil spirits. By dressing in similar clothes to the bride and groom, bridesmaids and ushers would confuse any evil spirits as they wouldn’t know who was getting married. This belief existed right up until Victorian times, and if you look at any 19th century wedding photo it can be quite difficult to tell the bride apart from the bridesmaids.

Today the role of bridesmaids is to provide support to the bride in both the lead up to the wedding and also on the day. This can involve everything from helping the bride to choose her wedding dress right through to helping her get dressed on the big day.

So who to choose, and how many bridesmaids to have? The majority of modern day brides choose a combination of close friends and sisters, although increasingly brides are choosing their mum or sister-in-laws to join them in the wedding party. There’s no hard and fast rule to choosing the right bridesmaid but they should be engaging, helpful and supportive – it should mean more to them than an opportunity to wear a nice dress!

When it comes to choosing the number of bridesmaids, brides should first consider the wedding venue. If you are getting married in a small location it is impractical to have a huge wedding party. The bride should also consider if the wedding is a big formal occasion or a smaller, less formal affair. Again, one bridesmaid might look out of place in a big church while eight would look silly in a registry office.

The most popular number of bridesmaids chosen by many brides today is three or four, although some older brides choose to go it alone and some have anything up to 11 bridesmaids.

After the bride has chosen how many bridesmaids to have and who to ask, she then needs to decide the colour and style of the dress. Many brides are now choosing the colour of the dresses they want their bridesmaids to wear but leaving it up to the bridesmaids to pick their own individual dress. This can work really well if you have a range of sizes and shapes among your bridal party, but brides should be sure they give the OK on every dress – you will have to live with those wedding photos forever and this could be tricky if you don’t like what the bridesmaids are wearing.

Vintage colours are definitely in for 2012 /2013, and champagnes, creams and mink are all popular amongst brides this season. But pinks, purples and greens are riding high as the most popular choices for bridesmaids in 2012 /2013.

Whatever choices brides make regarding bridesmaids, they should be choices they feel completely comfortable with. Ultimately it is the bride’s big day and all good bridesmaids will want to work with the bride, whatever decisions they make.
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Divorce and Financial Resolutions – Working Together

Posted on June 18, 2013 by ehowtos Publisher

By: Stu Mitchell

The holy grail of divorce proceedings, for all those involved, is to reach an amicable agreement between the divorcing parties on all issues regarding finances (and custody) as swiftly as possible, instead of relying on a judge to make a court ruling which may not best suit one or both of the parties. The more conflict there is, the more expensive the process is, the more damage is done to the relationship and, most importantly, the more damage is done to the children involved and their own relationships.

Mediation

One process which can minimise conflict and cost is mediation. At the heart of this process is the idea that both sides will meet face to face with a neutral mediator (who may or may not be a trained lawyer) to discuss and resolve particular sticking points. The mediator cannot advise the divorcing couple, only facilitate their discussions. This may involve suggesting that parties should seek further advice in financial or legal matters if they deem it necessary however. Both parties can still consult individual lawyers outside of the process but their lawyers are not allowed to take part in the meetings themselves. At the end of discussions, the mediator will write up and prepare the agreed terms so that each legal team can sign them off – entering into a legally binding agreement in doing so.
Mediation can prove significantly cheaper than following the court route with costs estimated at £500 per person compared to costs in the region of £5k to £20k for court hearings. Furthermore, the wider good that face to face discussions do to the relationship between the parties and therefore the handling of their children can be immeasurable.

Collaboration

A relatively new technique which is gaining in popularity is that of collaboration. In a collaborative divorce procedure, each party appoints a specialist collaboration lawyer and the individuals and their lawyers all meet face to face (as opposed to traditional correspondence between lawyers) to discuss and hopefully resolve disputes without the need to go to court. Collaborative lawyers are trained to work together towards a solution rather than solely representing their own clients and again the process can bring in other professional advisors to facilitate the meetings in relation to financial matters or child welfare.

If the collaboration process does not yield a resolution, the case will still then need to be heard in court, however, each party must enlist new legal representation and the discussions held in the collaborative process cannot be referred to in the court hearing without the consent of both sides. This exercise in drawing a line and making a clear distinction between the collaboration process and the courts ensures that the discussions in the former can be as open as possible.

Again collaboration should prove cheaper than the court route as it is often limited to around 3 to 6 meetings with court hearings only occurring if the process fails. Successful collaboration can therefore negate the expense of extended litigation and correspondence by post etc.

Funding Issues

As mentioned above, following a collaboration or mediation route can prove significantly cheaper than taking financial disputes to the courts. This is becoming particularly salient as the government looks to reducing the funds available to prospective divorcees through legal aid and because of the fact that fewer law firms are now prepared to take on legal aid cases due to their added bureaucracy (legal aid applications etc). The rationale behind government cuts to legal aid are that more couples should be encouraged to pursue mediation and this is being backed by a significant increase in mediation funding.

For those who do find themselves in court and can’t access legal aid there are ways of accessing funds which involve the the lending of money, via a solicitor, from a bank or a litigation investor. In addition, employing a solicitor on a fixed fee rather than an hourly rate can not only control but significantly reduce costs. However, the most effective way of ensuring that the funds needed for the future of the individual and their children are left intact is to make use of either mediation or collaboration.
© Stuart Mitchell 2012 If you want to find out more about the most effective ways of resolving financial disputes during divorce proceedings then visit Law Firm London or Solicitors Hertfordshire.

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Relationships

Posted on June 18, 2013 by ehowtos Publisher

By: Christina Williams

Relationships Heart aches, happiness, and drama are words associated with relationships. Most people have experienced what it feels like to get their hearts broken like Adele or Taylor Swift. They’ve experienced what it feels like to love someone with all their heart and have dealt with drama from family members and friends. So how in the end have they gotten through it?

Being in a relationship is tough, breaking up with a person is tougher, and moving on from a bad relationship is the toughest. First we experience a first date. Both people may feel nervous like a thousand butterflies have suddenly swarmed into their stomachs. The date goes well and both parties feel like he or she is on cloud nine. Smiling and acting giddly because you feel like you met the right person.

Then you go on more dates and began to form a link between the two of you. Now the game of love becomes harder because the two of you must work to ensure that link stays strong by communication and trust.

Sometimes communication and trust can be lost due to drama, tension, and jealousy. Drama causes tension between a couple resulting in unneeded arguments about little things. You were jealous of a special relationship your man or woman has with another friend. Most people have a friend who they joke around with and you just have to accept it to avoid drama. Yes, sometimes drama happening in a relationship is good because it causes a couple to get through the drama and become stronger, but too much of it can cause a couple to split causing unhappiness.

Jealousy also leads to lost of communication and trust. We experience the feeling of being jealous of another person trying to take our man or woman. Man and Woman sometimes become like animals.

Their territory is marked and when someone else invades what they see as their territory he or she will fight to protect to it. The “animal” does not want that invader coming in and stealing their partner away. We are insecure will see invaders that are out to steal our partners as well. Friends who want to talk to our partners become time stealers, taking away the time we want with our partner. A jealous mind set can lead to couples, spending less time together, sitting, living in the same house but not talking , or becoming strangers.

A person should be happy in a relationship, not constantly unhappy. Yes, a person is not going to be happy all the time because obstacles in life ,but when a person is unhappy more than happy in a relationship then it needs to end because then it is damaging to both.

Hurting and pain is a part of life. When a relationship is not working out most of us are afraid to hurt the other person by breaking up because we know how it will hurt them. Most of us have been unhappy in a relationship, and were afraid to leave and make our partner unhappy. It is better to leave in a relationship and be single then be unhappy in a relationship.

Yes, it is hard to move on since we may still love this person or we are so attached to this person. We cared so much that we spent money, time and energy on the person. We may do all that only to learn that he or she may have cheated on us or talk against us. This pushes us farther back from moving on.

Moving on allows us to become stronger, to realize that the person who hurt us wasn’t worth it, and to allow us to explore other fish in the sea.

When we start to explore we sometimes begin to explore a “fish” that has been there for us all the time like a friend. We are afraid to become more than that and risk losing them as a friend if the relationship goes bad. Many of us to put up walls, and making it hard for anyone else to get through due to being afraid of getting hurt or losing a friend. Getting hurt is painful but it hurts even more when we push a person away who wants to treat us right.

Most of us believe the new person will do the same things the other person did and hurt us causing the person to feel wanted and end the relationship.

We are all going to get hurt by people in life. In relationships there are going to be people who put us down, are nosy and want to know what is going on between the two of you, or don’t want you to see you hurt.

So accept the fact that hurt and pain will happen and learn to grow in a relationship. At the end of the day it is your life . So when someone is trying to butt in just ignore them and be happy because that is all that matters.
This is an article I wrote on what happens during relationships such as the heartache and happiness. I hope each person who reads this can relate to this. I want to be a journalist and lots of feedback will help me out. Also follow me on twitter @ ChrisyJean93

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